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Is it OK to start dating again after sexual assault?

There’s no “right” way to start dating again after sexual trauma; it’s going to be jarring regardless, but there are ways to make it a little easier. Below, Gilbert and other therapists share the general advice they give sexual assault survivors who are starting to date again.

Will you go on a date with a sexual violence survivor?

If you have never encountered a sexual violence survivor, please, please educate yourself before going on any more dates. One out of four women and one out of six men will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. Chances are, you will go on a date with a survivor, so do yourself and your future dates a favor and start learning about the issue now.

How should you date a victim of sexual assault?

Victims of sexual assault may also need more time to feel comfortable engaging in sexual activity if that is something of interest to them. When dating victims of sexual assault, you need to respect their timelines. In the aftermath of my sexual assault, I was blamed for the violence that I had endured.

Can you have a healthy sex life after sexual assault?

It can be incredibly difficult to have a healthy relationship and sex life after sexual assault: Years and years can pass before you feel connected enough to your body to even think about getting intimate with someone.

Is it safe to date after sexual assault?

For many, dating after a trauma — especially after sexual assault— is a way to try and take back the pen. But it can be daunting: deciding who it is safe to be vulnerable with and how to set boundaries. I spoke to Sarah about how to navigate dating after sexual assault.

Should you tell your dating partner about your sexual assault?

Your sexual assault doesn’t need to be one of them. You are under no obligation to share your experience with anyone you’re casually dating, said Kristen Diou, a counselor in Texas and the co-host of the podcast “ Pop Culture Therapists .” “Your story is yours alone, and you get to choose when or who you want to tell,” she said.

Is it safe to date after a trauma?

For many, dating after a trauma — especially after sexual assault— is a way to try and take back the pen. But it can be daunting: deciding who it is safe to be vulnerable with and how to set boundaries.

Will you go on a date with a sexual violence survivor?

If you have never encountered a sexual violence survivor, please, please educate yourself before going on any more dates. One out of four women and one out of six men will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. Chances are, you will go on a date with a survivor, so do yourself and your future dates a favor and start learning about the issue now.

How does sexual assault/abuse affect your sexuality?

Many of the effects of the sexual assault/abuse on your sexuality are a result of the sexual abuse mindset. This mindset consists of false beliefs about sex, and it is common to experience after a sexual assault or abuse. False beliefs about sex are commonly developed because the sexual assault or abuse is confused with sex.

What to do if you have been sexually assaulted by someone?

* Names have been changed. If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, you can call the 24/7 National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE (4673). More resources are available online from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center. To find a sexual assault service provider near you, visit RAINN.

What is the first step to healing after sexual assault?

This is the first step to healing after sexual assault or trauma; a desire to take back your body and have a positive relationship with it. Sex after assault is nothing short of retraumatizing.

Are You struggling to feel connected with your body after sexual assault?

Many people struggle to feel connected with their bodies after experiencing an assault. Lindsay is not the only survivor to unintentionally rely on this coping mechanism in the aftermath of sexual assault.