The times midlife dating

Is middle-aged dating a contact sport?

‘Middle-aged dating is like a grotesque contact sport, with too many players, where nobody wins,’ I say. ‘A world where the focus is on beginnings rather than endings.’ ‘Uh huh,’ Orla doesn’t look up.

Is dating just a game?

Helen Fisher, an anthropologist, suggests in Why We Love that dating is a game designed to ‘impress and capture’, which is not necessarily about honesty but novelty, excitement and even danger, which can boost dopamine levels in the brain. But that’s not what I’m looking for either.

What happens to self-destructive desires at midlife?

Marina Benjamin, in The Middlepause, eloquently describes the self-destructive desires that are perhaps subconscious at midlife, but often unavoidable: ‘In menopause, a woman is forced to negotiate an entirely new psychic terrain, largely in the spirit of alienation.

Is being a single woman in middle age a problem?

The anonymous woman, whose blog is called The Plankton, is not alone in believing that there are problems specific to being a single woman in middle age. A survey this month found eight out of 10 women over 50 think they have become invisible to men.

Is online dating the best way to meet older couples?

Katie Sheppard, the director of relationships at Match.com, said online dating was now the second most common way couples met across the UK – behind being introduced by friends or family – and for older people it can be a perfect way to dip a toe back into dating.

Do older women feel invisible in the dating market?

That said, the dating market for older singles isn’t all that easy. Older women feel invisible. There just aren’t that many available singles our age and the ones who are available are an interesting lot (read Anne Lamott’s funny take of her year on Match. com to understand).